Me and my friend had a conversation the other day. She was talking about going to the gym and I asked what muscle groups she usually works out there. She mentioned everything but the arms and I asked why she doesn’t do them. Her reason was because she’s bad at it and her arms are the weakest part of her body.
This got me thinking.
I know it’s very common for girls to not work their arms, and it’s fine! I’m not saying you have to live in the gym and work every single muscle in your body – although I do think it’s very cool to be strong throughout the body – but it’s the attitude behind it that just gets to me. If you are someone who avoids doing things they suck at, please hear me out.
When I was in first grade at school, I remember I hated reading so much. It was so difficult and oh so frustrating to get those vowels right. What if I had said: you know what, I hate this, I’m not gonna do it anymore. Do you think I’d be rereading and writing this post right now? Well.. probably, because my teacher and my mom didn’t ask whether I’d like to work on my reading skills or not, it’s just something I had to do. So I did, and eventually I started enjoying it and read a lot of books on my free time.
The beautiful thing about being an adult is that we get to decide what we’re gonna work on. Nobody’s going to tell you what you have to do. If you don’t like working out your arms, you don’t have to. If you are shy and hate socializing and just want to stay home every evening, you can. If you are bad at presenting yourself and don’t like the stress that comes with job interviews, you can stay at your old job. If you are bad at singing, you can always just move your lips and fake it when you’re in a party and it’s time to sing happy birthday.
You can live in your comfortable little bubble, it’s very nice and cozy there. But what if – and this might sound crazy – you started working on your biggest weaknesses?
Ask yourself this: would the quality of your life get better if you did? Would you eventually become happier? Are some of your weaknesses standing between you and your dreams?
Why should your learning stop right that second when you step out of school? You’ve only got the basics – now is when the real growing starts. You have a big project that you’re gonna work on until you take your last breath. It’s the most important project in your entire life. Can you guess it? It’s yourself.
People are so afraid of failure. I can feel you, change and new challenges bring a lot of stress. It’s easier to stay in your comfort zone and keep doing the things you’ve done before. It might not be great but it’s just fine. It could be awesome though if you just took the first step. It’s always the hardest. The chance of failure whispers at the back of your mind and it’s just overall very frustrating. What’s the worst thing that could happen? Failure? I don’t think so. Actually it’s the complete opposite – failure is the best thing that could happen because that’s when you learn the most. The process of growth is never easy, nobody said so, but it’s very rewarding at the end.
Challenges mean growth. Failure means growth. Getting back up again after you fall means skyrocketed growth.
Imagine if you choose one of your weaknesses today and start working on it with passion. In a year, where would you be? How about in five years? Most importantly, how would you feel about yourself? See it’s not necessarily about how far you go with your project, it’s about how at the end you can say: I did this. I challenged myself and it was hard, there were days when I felt like EFFF this I’m quitting but I still kept going and look at me now.
You can never be perfect but you surely are a diamond waiting to be shaped. The people who use this attitude in all areas of their life are the ones that will surely be remembered and greatly admired because motivaton is very contagious. Just think about how many people you would be inspiring around you. I’m sure the answer is a lot.
I do think the best attitude towards life is trying to be better than you were yesterday, no matter what the topic is. Improving yourself as a whole really makes you a better person, not only to yourself but to others too. Adopt that fearless attitude and start using it in whatever you do. Do those bicep curls. You’ll feel so much better afterwards.
PS: Something I have to add: I’m not a native English speaker, so when we started learning it at school, I was bad at it. I didn’t want anything to do with it, I’d rather color the funny characters in my school book than do any assignments. A few years later I started liking British bands and wanted to know what they were singing in their songs. I remember sitting in my room listening to songs while hours passed, just repeating them and checking for translations in my dictionary. Soon I started connecting with other fans online – still a dictionary in my hand – and years later I started writing my own song lyrics in English. Fast forward to now when I use the language daily for different projects. I’m so happy I did all that because it opened the world for me.
Challenging yourself is the best thing you can do to yourself.
Go ahead and do it, it could change your life.